Welp. It's happening.
Our baby, our youngest....is headed off to Kindergarten.
I knew it was going to happen quick. Having 3 children 18 months apart, you are bound to go through some stages rather quickly. It was not that long ago that I was watching through tear-bleared eyes as Owen, and then Hannah, walked through the doors of the school.
And there is no doubt in my mind that there will be tears for Madeline as well.
I am having similar feelings that I did for the last two, although they do vary a bit.
Obviously I've done this before. It helps that Madeline (and me!) is lucky enough to get the same amazing teacher that Owen and Hannah did.
But, also, Madeline is our extrovert among introverts. In a family that craves one on one and down time, Madeline longs for the love a group.
The thing she is most excited for? "Seeing all my friends!"
I still have that concern of sending her off into a classroom of
peers. It brings back all of my own feelings of inadequacy, and wanting
other to like me, and trying to find my place among all the other kids.
And as I see the quiet, unsure side of Hannah that I can relate to, Madeline's need for the crowd also gives me pause. The whole needing to be liked thing swings both ways, effecting the introvert and extrovert alike...just in different ways.
As I've said in another post,
we often focus on making sure our kids find their value in God's eyes,
and not in another human's favor. It seems like they get it.
They get it in the safe, comfortable place of home.
But I think of all those unknowns for Madeline, those things that I went
through that I really don't want her to experience. I don't want to see
her hurt. I cringe of thinking of that day when someone verbally tears
her down for something that at one point she cherished about himself.
Causing her to doubt everything about herself that at one time seemed so
I want her to be equipped with the knowledge that I have now, after having gone through it myself.
But truthfully, those lessons are often learned through personal experience, and not because someone has told you.
are a treasured child of the King. The world is going to tell you that
you are going to lose, but take heart - THEY DON'T KNOW THE RULES.
Don't take it personally when some kid makes fun of your mismatched on purpose clothing choices
or the stuffed animal that you brought in for show in tell or calls you
some name that brings tears to your eyes. They only call you that to
make their own selves
feel better. There is something about you that threatens them. And by
calling you out on your 'lameness' somehow makes them feel like you are
back to their level.
I want you, Madeline, to be sure of yourself, knowing God has created you as
a unique individual, with unique qualities and tastes. The best person
you can be is YOU, not an imitation of someone else.
People's valuation of you should not matter, only God's valuation of you
should. Measure yourself by his ruler, by His Word, not by the
measuring stick of your peers.
Love God, show others God's love, despite their actions toward you.
Remember, you don't need a certain number of friends, just a number of
friends that you can be certain of.
There will always be someone richer, cooler, smarter than you. That's
just life. But there will also be others who are poorer, wallflowers,
back of the class. That's life, too. But God doesn't play favorites
and you shouldn't either. Treat each peer as an equal, someone who is
loved by Jesus, and in need of Jesus' love.
THIS is what I want you to know before you go to Kindergarten, Madeline.