Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Here it is.

Last summer I mentioned burnout.  I had been feeling a certain way for awhile but didn't know how to identify it.  Then I read this article.


Listed below are the signs of burnout listed in the article:


1. Your motivation has faded. The passion that fueled you is gone, and your motivation has either vaporized or become self-centered.


2. Your main emotion is ‘numbness’ – you no longer feel the highs or the lows. 


3. People drain you. Of course there are draining people on the best of days. But not everybody, every time. Burnout often means few to no people energize you anymore.


4. Little things make you disproportionately angry. When you start losing your cool over small things, it’s a sign something deeper is very wrong.


5. You’re becoming cynical. 


6. Your productivity is dropping. You might be working long hours, but you’re producing little of value. Or what used to take you 5 minutes just took you 45. That’s a warning bell.


7.  You’re self-medicating.  Your coping mechanism has gone underground or dark. Whether that’s overeating, overworking, drinking, impulsive spending or even drugs, you’ve chosen a path of self-medication over self-care. Ironically, my self-medication was actually more work, which just spirals things downward.


8. You don’t laugh anymore.


9. Sleep and time off no longer refuel you.


I had found my answer.  THIS is what I had been feeling.  But what do I do with it?  We had just committed to another year of houseparenting at Gateway.  

I was exhausted.

I cried way too often.

I was burnt out.

Last June as I looked at that list I could identify with all of them in some form or another - especially 2, 3, 5, and 9.  Paul read it and felt the same way.

Not good.  You can't both be burnt out at the same time!  Right?

Well, this year has been a year of more stretching and growing and learning.

I have wrote several times about valleys and how we are asked to walk through them.  This year has been a valley for sure.  Continuing to press on despite the sever burnout we were feeling was a challenge for sure.  But don't we learn the most when we go through those hard times?

Well, if you read that sentence a few lines up you will catch that I said "another year of Houseparenting."


Ummm, that year is about up.

After 5 1/2 years of this work, Paul and I and our kiddos are moving on from houseparenting.

I knew this day would come.  I didn't think we had it in us to be lifers here.  Some days it couldn't come fast enough.  Other days I thought we could do this for years to come!

We have struggled with this decision for quite some time.  We are not quitters.  But sometimes we feel like that is what we are when we say we are done as Houseparents.

But truthfully, struggling with those 9 issues listed up top?

I think I need a rest.

And then I feel guilty for resting.  I should just keep doing this, right?

This is the vicious cycle running through my head on a daily basis.  Welcome to my brain.

Some are going to ask the question so I will answer:  We do not know where we are going from here.

We just know that we are supposed to go.

God has made that clear to us.  We had our doubts after the house fiasco in January.  And I've been doubting as any job for Paul is still hazy on the horizon.

But, there isn't much trusting when you know all the details and how it will all work out.

So, we step out trusting God's got our back.  He's got a plan and when we need to know something, He'll tell us.

We're still here.  We're still in it.  They got us through May whether they like it or not.


And I've just got to hold on for the ride, wherever it takes us.
1. Your motivation has faded. The passion that fueled you is gone, and your motivation has either vapourized or become self-centered.
2. Your main emotion is ‘numbness’ – you no longer feel the highs or the lows. This was actually one of the earliest signs for me that the edge was near. I wrote more about emotional numbness here.
3. People drain you. Of course there are draining people on the best of days. But not everybody, every time. Burnout often means few to no people energize you anymore.
4. Little things make you disproportionately angry. When you start losing your cool over small things, it’s a sign something deeper is very wrong.
5. You’re becoming cynical. Many leaders fight this one, but cynicism rarely finds a home in a healthy heart.
6. Your productivity is dropping. You might be working long hours, but you’re producing little of value. Or what used to take you 5 minutes just took you 45. That’s a warning bell.
7.  You’re self-medicating.  Your coping mechanism has gone underground or dark. Whether that’s overeating, overworking, drinking, impulsive spending or even drugs, you’ve chosen a path of self-medication over self-care. Ironically, my self-medication was actually more work, which just spirals things downward.
8. You don’t laugh anymore. Nothing seems fun or funny, and, at its worst, you begin to resent people who enjoy life.
9. Sleep and time off no longer refuel you. Sometimes you’re not burnt out; you’re just tired. A good night’s sleep or a week or two off will help most healthy people bounce back with fresh energy. But you could have a month off when you’re burnt out and not feel any difference. I took three weeks off during my summer of burn out, and I felt worse at the end than when I started. Not being refueled when you take time off is a major warning sign you’re burning out.
- See more at: http://careynieuwhof.com/2013/07/9-signs-youre-burning-out-in-leadership/#sthash.teDexJV5.dpuf
1. Your motivation has faded. The passion that fueled you is gone, and your motivation has either vapourized or become self-centered.
2. Your main emotion is ‘numbness’ – you no longer feel the highs or the lows. This was actually one of the earliest signs for me that the edge was near. I wrote more about emotional numbness here.
3. People drain you. Of course there are draining people on the best of days. But not everybody, every time. Burnout often means few to no people energize you anymore.
4. Little things make you disproportionately angry. When you start losing your cool over small things, it’s a sign something deeper is very wrong.
5. You’re becoming cynical. Many leaders fight this one, but cynicism rarely finds a home in a healthy heart.
6. Your productivity is dropping. You might be working long hours, but you’re producing little of value. Or what used to take you 5 minutes just took you 45. That’s a warning bell.
7.  You’re self-medicating.  Your coping mechanism has gone underground or dark. Whether that’s overeating, overworking, drinking, impulsive spending or even drugs, you’ve chosen a path of self-medication over self-care. Ironically, my self-medication was actually more work, which just spirals things downward.
8. You don’t laugh anymore. Nothing seems fun or funny, and, at its worst, you begin to resent people who enjoy life.
9. Sleep and time off no longer refuel you. Sometimes you’re not burnt out; you’re just tired. A good night’s sleep or a week or two off will help most healthy people bounce back with fresh energy. But you could have a month off when you’re burnt out and not feel any difference. I took three weeks off during my summer of burn out, and I felt worse at the end than when I started. Not being refueled when you take time off is a major warning sign you’re burning out.
- See more at: http://careynieuwhof.com/2013/07/9-signs-youre-burning-out-in-leadership/#sthash.teDexJV5.dpuf
1. Your motivation has faded. The passion that fueled you is gone, and your motivation has either vapourized or become self-centered.
2. Your main emotion is ‘numbness’ – you no longer feel the highs or the lows. This was actually one of the earliest signs for me that the edge was near. I wrote more about emotional numbness here.
3. People drain you. Of course there are draining people on the best of days. But not everybody, every time. Burnout often means few to no people energize you anymore.
4. Little things make you disproportionately angry. When you start losing your cool over small things, it’s a sign something deeper is very wrong.
5. You’re becoming cynical. Many leaders fight this one, but cynicism rarely finds a home in a healthy heart.
6. Your productivity is dropping. You might be working long hours, but you’re producing little of value. Or what used to take you 5 minutes just took you 45. That’s a warning bell.
7.  You’re self-medicating.  Your coping mechanism has gone underground or dark. Whether that’s overeating, overworking, drinking, impulsive spending or even drugs, you’ve chosen a path of self-medication over self-care. Ironically, my self-medication was actually more work, which just spirals things downward.
8. You don’t laugh anymore. Nothing seems fun or funny, and, at its worst, you begin to resent people who enjoy life.
9. Sleep and time off no longer refuel you. Sometimes you’re not burnt out; you’re just tired. A good night’s sleep or a week or two off will help most healthy people bounce back with fresh energy. But you could have a month off when you’re burnt out and not feel any difference. I took three weeks off during my summer of burn out, and I felt worse at the end than when I started. Not being refueled when you take time off is a major warning sign you’re burning out.
- See more at: http://careynieuwhof.com/2013/07/9-signs-youre-burning-out-in-leadership/#sthash.teDexJV5.dpuf
1. Your motivation has faded. The passion that fueled you is gone, and your motivation has either vapourized or become self-centered.
2. Your main emotion is ‘numbness’ – you no longer feel the highs or the lows. This was actually one of the earliest signs for me that the edge was near. I wrote more about emotional numbness here.
3. People drain you. Of course there are draining people on the best of days. But not everybody, every time. Burnout often means few to no people energize you anymore.
4. Little things make you disproportionately angry. When you start losing your cool over small things, it’s a sign something deeper is very wrong.
5. You’re becoming cynical. Many leaders fight this one, but cynicism rarely finds a home in a healthy heart.
6. Your productivity is dropping. You might be working long hours, but you’re producing little of value. Or what used to take you 5 minutes just took you 45. That’s a warning bell.
7.  You’re self-medicating.  Your coping mechanism has gone underground or dark. Whether that’s overeating, overworking, drinking, impulsive spending or even drugs, you’ve chosen a path of self-medication over self-care. Ironically, my self-medication was actually more work, which just spirals things downward.
8. You don’t laugh anymore. Nothing seems fun or funny, and, at its worst, you begin to resent people who enjoy life.
9. Sleep and time off no longer refuel you. Sometimes you’re not burnt out; you’re just tired. A good night’s sleep or a week or two off will help most healthy people bounce back with fresh energy. But you could have a month off when you’re burnt out and not feel any difference. I took three weeks off during my summer of burn out, and I felt worse at the end than when I started. Not being refueled when you take time off is a major warning sign you’re burning out.
- See more at: http://careynieuwhof.com/2013/07/9-signs-youre-burning-out-in-leadership/#sthash.teDexJV5.dpuf

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